Ever feel totally out of place talking to people? Yesterday at 'sunday school' We were talking with the group, and one person mentioned the new rewind thing you can do with the digital cable, nothing wrong with that, very cool thing, but totally not in the buidget to get cable much less rent a recorder.
Then they were talking about Christmas, one parent has a kid with 14 build a bears! 14? at 30 ish dollars a piece? No way I have the money nor would I be happily encouraging my kid to get something that will not last with it if I had it! (nothing wrong with a couple, each of my kids has one made for them while I was pregnant with them)
Speaking of build-a-bears, they talked of Girlscout cookies, guess what they did with the money they earned? Bears! People bought cookies in support of a girl scouts prolly thinking of badge earning or enrichment, and the girls got a pizza party and bears!?! I must be totally out of it, I thought the money was spent on something useful, like a learning experience.
The whole time DH and I were feeling completly out of place, we live around middle class people, but we are not middle class, we totally do not fit.
But then I was talking about a friend of ours, she has a kid staying with her whose parents left him, at 17, they up and left? Then there is the friend of hers who is pregnant for the 4th time and wants someone to adopt the kid, for the 4th time. 4 times you get pregnant and don't want the kid? I don't know anyone who wants to really give away their kid, or anyone who would run away from home or leave their kid, or any of that! I don't understand that. I live around middle class people with middle class problems, but I totally don't understand any of them either.
Out of place
January 16th, 2006 at 01:16 pm
January 16th, 2006 at 02:35 pm 1137422145
February 1st, 2006 at 01:37 am 1138757827
As for the build-a-bear people and the Girl Scout people, I'm sure you can understand that this is the way that they tell their children that they love them. They probably feel very guilty about not spending time with their kids or they feel a great deal of self pity because they didn't get all the toys they wanted when they were growing up. Some times people believe that if they give their children everything they were deprived of and more, their children will grow up to be uber-geniuses, ball players, ballet-dancers, super perfect human beings. Some times people think that not getting stuff as a kid scared them and kept them from reaching their potential. You should consider yourself lucky if you do not feel this way. Amazingly, amazingly, amazingly lucky. In fact, since you mentioned that you're a churchgoer, you should offer thanks for it every night.