Ok so I did the smart ones, but there is more I want to do, I just get bogged down writing it all...so I have two seperate lists, one is specific (and smart) the other is BHAG..... I actually posted these out of order I had the BHAGS in mind when I picked my Smart ones...
1. Be healthier in general..walking, eating, organicish, hormone free..more whole wheat.....ect...
2. Save more....larger EF...more planning for retirement...more something for the kids rather than just sit and ignore the cash...
3. See more family, send more cards....call more often...get the kids used to talking on the phone more...
4. Volunteer more, somewhere, somehow....
5. Embroider more, bake more, read more non online
6. Declutter more and make my house grow.
7. Write more
8. help husband more
9. complain less, do more.
10. love more
I asked my daughter for her BHAG...she wants to write stories..
My son wants to be a firefighter..
Archive for December, 2006
Ok so I did the smart ones, but there is more I want to do, I just get bogged down writing it all...so I have two seperate lists, one is specific (and smart) the other is BHAG..... I actually posted these out of order I had the BHAGS in mind when I picked my Smart ones...
I am stealing it from Tina
In light of simple I revised a few goals, especially the car one, I made up my mind how to do it, course I don't know who would agree on it, Husband is a pretty general guy (pay more, eat healthier, is specific enough for him)
Since apparently I (and everyone else) want(s) to 'Lose weight, save money, enjoy time with family and friends'
I figured I would get one or two smart ones in each area....
1. Record all 'new' purchases for the month of January..might go longer but I will decide that at the end of the month...(and decide how to reduce or leave alone the purchases)
2. Pay at least one hundred extra on the car each month for at least Jan-Mar. (reevaluate then if up or down...)
3. Eat at least 3 fruits or veggies with the kids..(they get 4-5, I only tend to eat 2....)
4. Incorporate 100 counts of isometric excersises into some part of my day...bedtime if it hasn't happened yet..
Well honestly I don't want to see mine more, I want to see mine less! sortof.
Actually I do need to work on not insulting my family, I see most of them plenty, I just need to be nicer about it....
seriously, I do not feel safe with a kid on a bike (a baby I mean)
I know plenty do, plenty of people do lots of things I am not comortable with....
point is, I want a flinstones like car, one that has bike gear tech, but is more of a real frame with less need for balance, one that has pedals for all over a certain hight to help 'push' and one that has room for at least 2 kids. (or one baby one toddler)
Oh and it has to be small enough to ride on a sidewalk, I am not trusting a flinstone car against the modern SUV!
Got all that? rich investor make me one I will buy it, promise..ok assuming I can afford it, keep the total cost under 500$...guess that is prolly the hard part.
I don't need to travel that fast..I just want to be able to a bit faster than a 3 year old walking, and with a bit less energy exerted. And be able to cary my baby feeling safe...preferably with giving my older kids a chance to practice skills they need to soon bike alongside instead of in.
Maybe a trike for grownups...trike sounds less difficult to balance with a baby on it...considering my baby sits on his big sisters all the time....
OK edit to say I think I found it, I just am having trouble with the price..
That is rediculous, how on earth can a large company not have an email address to contact them?
It has to be somewhere, I want to send an email, I do not want to call on the phone I just want to compose it get it out and hope they think it over, I don't want 'I understant, sympathise whatever' I just want to fill them in...online, no cost, simple short, editable for content and politeness....but no, they only have a phone number and a snail mail address, that is a royal PIA!
Well I am a bit late but I havn't been online.....
My brother was here, we hardly ever see him, and his family, it was wonderful.
They have a 3 year old 1 year old and twin 15 year olds. plus the two of them and the 5 of us, makes for one BIG party!
We took them out to a 'Dave and Busters' which is a game and dinner place..pretty interesting and managed to amuse bothe the middle age (4, 3, and 3yo) as well as the 15 year olds, plus the big kids of adults...
Sum total for one full night out...priceless.....this is why we spend less most all year long.....to treat.....
Though if they lived closer...we couldn't keep up!
Unfortunatly I have a complaintOgram to send to dave and busters....no greeting for 5 minutes...no waitress for over 10....food very prompt..followed by 45 minute wait for desert! Not to mention lousy bathrooms.....
I am...very much so, today we got to see our oldest GMC sing in the childrens 'choir' and he actually sang, it was wonderful.
Then they talked about the Christmas story being passed on and my kids were filling in many of the words and knew alot about hte story, I believe in part because we talk about it every night of Advent as we read the advent book.
And tonight we get to go to a candelit service...ok so it starts at 7pm, which is when we are normally snuggled in listening to the bedtime story, but...we are going in PJs for the younger two, hopefully they will fall asleep on the way home, and Christmas day, they can sleep in if they want...yeah right
Tonight we give the kids a book each, I think we might take the books to the service..give them something to do for any err boring parts!
Then tommorow they each get a stocking, then a break for pancakes...yes I complained about stopping for breakfast as a kid, but...well it is neccessary to get real food in!
And then two presents, it was going to be one, but we fell into some interesting things, so two it is. One for each is a game and I can't wait to play....christmas morning, in PJs, snuggled with my three kids, playing a game..what could be better? I Can't wait!
Warning this is a bit religious appologies to all who do not believe, no offense is intended, I merely want to rant.
One of my first years with my husband my mother in law told me that Christmas was 'just for the kids'.
Sorry, I didn't feel that way then, and I don't feel that way now. Christmas is about the birth of Christ....God's gift to ALL people, He sent His son for all, the Grandpas, and Grandmas, the Aunts, and Uncles, the Mommas, and the Daddys, the Pastors and the Clerks, the bank tellers, the postal workers, the young the old, the in between, the rich, the poor, the struggling, the famous, the 'average', and yes even the terrorists. If you don't see yourself in that list you are trying to hard not to be, stop it.
Christmas is about God's gift to the world, and He didn't reserve his love for just the little children, I wont reserve my celebration of Jesus for just them either.
Yeah I know Christians borrowed the season from pagans, (and fertility worship isn't about kids either!) But borrow it we did, and we changed it, adapted it, combined it, an made it about Jesus. So now that we have it, lets keep it for ALL people, and celebrate the gift of eternal life...with gifts of our own, good food, and a bit of worship for good measure.
Christmas..no not billions of dollars in toys, or other gifts..steak dinner, turkey with all the trimmings, fudge, lots of fudge, for all on the gift list. baking, and more baking....
This baking stuff aint free! but it is so worth it, this month nothing is getting paid extra, no debt accruing, but also no special jumps down..I wish I was debt free, but regardless I would still spend about the same on Christmas, debt or no debt I want my splurge of a dinner...and yeah we JUST went to the store, and went again tonight...twice in one week! what are we thinking! we are thinking steak needs to be bought (and the next couple days arn't such good days for us).
You know we might even have to go again while the brother and company is in town...he is worth it, his kids are worth it, I am not going to try and cook dinner for my normal budget for him, I am going to try and make it edible though (and the lousy food here has nothing to do with cost, I am just a bad cook in general..though I can cook the steak, bake a potato, and nuke some veggies just fine! heh and oddly enough I cook a terrific turkey dinner!)
Anyway....family, friends..christmas..these are worth wasting some cash on..just not going into debt for.
I love the fact that my kids think of each other.
Yesterday my son went to the music thing at church, they had a mini party to celebrate the end of the year, their was a present pile. My son chose a bouncy ball and a mini maze. He chose the ball for himself, and then he chose the maze because his sister had one and it broke, he got her a new one, with his present he chose one for her..that is soooo adorable!
Then today while we were coloring he found one of the scrap papers that had a picture of a picnic basket on it complete with utensils for a meal, he immediatly told me that JC would like it....I asked if he thought he could find something for his daddy, he pulled up a case of money . Then I asked the tough one, something for UE, he found several things UE would like, but we owned them or a version of them already!
I decided to ask if my daughter could do the same, and thought it was an adorable learning experience, and any good grandparent/parent would love a 'gift' from a child, even if it wasn't real, the thought from a heart of a child was there..and cute!
Oh yeah and my 'writing challenged' son, GMC, had to make thank you notes today..he wrote out the whole thing, not just 'thank you' but 'Thank you for the new game' without me asking him to! I love when they show you they mastered a skill (at /ew/ in new he asked "is that 'oo' or 'ew' or 'ui'"? and I thought he would never spell!
Sorry I can't help myself
more mollasses cookies for tonight, plus some rolls.
The rolls are a bit 'sourdoughy' but still good, least the kids are demanding more of them....
Later today I need to make some fudge for my husband to take to work.
Yesterday we made fudge for my son to take to music class and he actually got to do a lot of the work. I like this recipie, rave reviews and easy enough for a kid to make.
Yesterday we recieved two gift cards with cash..our steak dinner is once again bought by our wonderful Uncle ..best present all year!
Course it is also the first
So I am not a good cook, I am a good baker, in general..I have my moments but in general food is 'soso' and baked stuff is 'awesome'.
Last night was another 'so-so', a little more on the not so good side of so-so, than on the not so bad side.
Today leftovers for lunch was met with less than normal enthusiasm......I decided to fill my kids in on a secret..I am not a good cook, they should just eat it, and hope tonight is better!
Really I would love to have perfect meals each and every night with ust the right spices, but it isn't my talent, and letting the convenience foods do it for me, isn't actually much better flavorwise. Until I can afford a chef to cook dinner each night, we are just going to have to deal with what I cook.
so ust eat it, and be greatful you have food...oh and pass the pepper!
So I woke up cold and decided the best cure was to bae, that and I have a list a mile long of things I aught to be baking.
I got butter out to soften for pumpkin bread (sweet not to good for you, but oh so good) Then I decided I wanted the oven on now, os I made oil oatmeal muffins (healthy, but good) since hte butter still wasn't soft enough I made buiscuts....and then whole wheat bread....then I finally was ready for th epumpkin bread I started with..and I only got out half the butter I needed! URGH
A simple case of lack of planning.....or lack of looking, I used my memory to know how much to get out..when will I learn I have no memory!
I had to tunr the oven off while the bread finished rising, and now in a few minutes the butter will finanly ALL be soft to make the pumpkin..but the oven is in use, baking the bread! sigh.
I was asked to write an essay about faith today...the day of the 'must be nice' and it took all morning ot go from anger to blessing, but when I finally did I wrote my essay on it, dunno that it will be what they want, but hey they asked a non writer, can't expect much!
Not a luxury but a blessing.
I am frequently told it 'must be nice' to have the luxury of staying home...Today was another day of hearing how 'lucky' I am. Don't get me wrong I do like staying home, but line drying clothes isn't exactly my idea of a pampered life. As the anger rose in me, I composed retorts for the next to tell me of my 'nice luck' I listed sacrifices my husband and I have made over the last 5 years to realize this 'luxury' I ticked off reasons so and so could do it, and figured the budget for them. But then I realized it was pointless, and in fact harmful. And I realized instead of focusing on how hard staying home is, I shoudl focus on the blessing of staying home. It is not really a luxury to me (a nice hot bubble bath on the other hand is!) but staying home is a huge blessing. God has truly blessed our family in many ways. To me the phrase 'there but for the grace of God' applies. I may not be able to pinpoint all that He has done in my life, but I know if it were not for Him I would not be able to stay here with my children every day. (without His grace and forgiveness I am not sure I would want to!)
I am blessed with a husband who understands and shares my desire to stay with the kids.
We are blessed with many reminders of why we choose this path.
We are blessed with new information on how to make pennies squeak as our family grows.
Each time I am told it 'must be nice' I feel insulted that someone thinks I am a spoiled princess...But that is what I am, oh sure I miss out on some fun luxuries (pedicures, daily meat) but in general I am spoiled in what counts. Love, family, and an opportunity to see, and help, my children grow each and every day
God's many blessings for our family are more than enough, my cup does overflow..and it IS nice.
Staying home, yet again the stay at home is a luxury struck..I soooooo wanted to point out that it is HIGHLY unlikely either of them make less than 30K (what we made last year) and so luxury is a bad word, choice, we choose to have one of us stay home.
grr, #$^%&%$# @#)(%*^ @(#&%^& snarl, fume@$$#^$*$%(
So lets just say I consider my HOT shower a luxury, I consider staying home a choice, not a luxury, a choice, and yes I feel it is the best one, or we wouldn't have made it. We thought about it, we weighed and measured our options, and we came to the best choice for us......
Saying that 'staying home is a luxury' is the most demeaning thing to me, my sacrifices are lost on these folk.
Yeah I know, those folk shouldn't matter...and I shouldn't swear either...I'll work on it.
Well, yesterday some things got done....not everything, but I am not sure everything will ever be done.
My son was adorable at the store using some of his money to buy a toy for his sister.
Really when he isn't misbehaving he is adorable!
We spent a small fortune on food (110-Extra baking and such for Christmas) but well, this is what we save for, so we can spend it now.....Unfortunatly we need mollasses still (I promised molasses cookies Sunday, and I have none left)
But other than that we shouldn't spend any more money for the week, milk is good till the 24th, though I do expect to go shopping before then, we need steak and a turkey..unless we go to PA, FIL is in the hospital awaiting surgery..that will be an interesting trip to go there hopefully to be ba k just in time ofr out of town guests here...
Oh well, I played games, I ate cookies, I had a good night..now I have to go back to work....
I was reading up on education today:
rather harsh view..though I do not agree everything, I feel this kind of reading is very important.
sad but humerous in a ironic way.....prolly not meant as funny as it comes off...
So, they ask you at Christmas time whether your grades are going to be better this term. What are you supposed to say? If you say "No, Mom, actually, they're about the same as usual,"
heh...honesty is so not encouraged in youth of public schools!
Children have very little need for all of the forced memorization and rote learning of traditional schooling, and so our journey is about learning what we actually need to know . . . and memorizing those things which prove necessary or entertaining.
actually need to know...I keep comming back to that.....
essay on swings
so there you have a day in the websearch of me (blogs used to be just that..lists of websites to go to..so here is mine)
We have errands to run (po box, mail couple packages, and get stamps-also recycle center-groceries, and the kids want to spend some gift money)
plus things to bake (fudge, pumpkin bread, mollasses cookies -which I lost the recipie too, and had to call my mother, then call my aunt for it! family recipe frotunatly, hopefully peanut butter fudge-if I can find the recipe, and soon stuff for Sunday)
Plus company tonight (hope they like baked goods!)
Plus cards to address, (I lost my address book, so I am sending them as I get them, I love hearing form others, I especially like the picture cards and the letters...though word to all who write...umm, upbeat is more seasonally appropriate....)
Anyway, think we can be back in time for company? we havn't even left yet and it is 1pm!
I made my bed..yeah ok silly I know, but one time poking around flylady.net I found a comment on what to do if you were sick, and flylady said..make your bed.....
But if I am sick I want in it! I don't want to make it!
Well, after I made my bed (yesterday) I decided I could prolly manage to pick up some miscelaneous things too..and while I did have to take breaks, mostly to blow my nose! I managed to get my whole room clean. K, so the dishes were piled high in the kitchen, the livingroom was suffering from only being cleaned by the kids the day before (and while good, they have limits) and the laundry was piled sky high... but I had a clean bedroom..I felt soo much better just having that one clean sanctuary for me.
My nose was still a bright red rudolph drippy stuffy, sneezy mess, but I felt calmer about the upcomming company (friday, and overnight Monday) and the extra baking I have to do (for said company both times, and for Sunday) because since I had a calm place to rest, I could retreat in between working.
Now don't go thinking it is all done..I wish! but some is done, and I had a wonderful nights sleep, in a peaceful room to start my day fresh.
Only trouble, you never know what you are advertising to different people.
Take your shoes..while one person might think 'cool wish I had a pair' the same pair of shoes might elicit 'ugh, those are soooo ugly, I would never wear them' and yet a third will think 'err shoes..she had shoes..umm guess so'.
Which for me means I wont waste time on what shoes I wear (though man mine are uncomfortable! I gotta do something about that)
On the other hand, I homeschool, I stay at home, eat healthy (ish), reduced consumer, and I am a semi tree hugger..
What do those immages bring to mind to you? all good? all bad? all prolly based on your experience and reading...not a terrible thing to base stuff on..but...are you getting the whole picture? maybe that person with twinkies in the cart had a science project on what twinkies do to the arteries...not actually planning on eating them? Or maybe they were..you just can't tell...but that person buying them should be thinking that they are advertising/supporting twinkies by buying them....
Or maybe you are one of the few and far between, the 'whatever' folk, folk who don't think anything of anybody, really you are a rare breed. And while you may not make judgements, others are making them of you, so if you have a cause..are your daily habits that others can see supporting it? if not....what are you telling the world?
The immages you and others have about any 'lable' may or may not be true, but they are there, and they are hard to fight.
Every time my kid throws a tantrum in public, I am faced with some people seeing me as a bad mother, every time My kid doesn't know the answer to a question I am faced with some people thinking my homeschooling is failing, everytime my kids or I are sick I am faced with healthy (ish) eating being a waste of time...Everytime I buy useless junk I am faced with some others thinking my money is supporting a wasteful industry...and everytime I use a disposable wrapping I am faced with 'treehugging' being to hard to keep up. (or other immages, who knows what people think)
None of this will stop me from trying to be the best mother and possibly more environmentalist I can be, but all of it is something I try to consider when I walk out the door (after I get the round of diapers, pottys, coats, food packed, and such taken care of)
So what are you advertising?
Oh and while you really may not care about strangers..what are you advertising to your kids? drinking pop while they drink water? they will likely grow up to drink pop..insisting they read while you watch the latest sitcom? condeming lying, while telling a 'great'story of youthfull lies?
I once read a sci fi story where the cure for a cold was deep sleep for 5 days, I assume with IV fluids and nutrition.....
Unfortunatly we don't have that option, and even if we did, who would take care of the kids?
So instead I have learned a couple ways to save on klenex, meds and lost time.
--Nothing monumental but FLUIDS! lots of them, and clear..like water..not only for the sicko but for the rest of the house....Oh I could find you tons of articles stating fluids are important but do you really need one more expert? go get a glass of water and google em yourself
--An old soft t-shirt...for the drippy snots..it feels better to a sore nose than all but the most expensive brands of kleenex, but please wash on hot to kill the germs....and no yuky snotty klenex to take out (common you know the kids use a ton and overflow the can, leaving you to pick up and touch the icky snot that never really gets absorbed..if it did the snot would go thru to your hand when used..eww!)
--Soap! wash your hands...and dry them..damp snotty hands not only carry your germs to others, they invite others germs to you...last thing you need is multiple colds in rapid succession!
--generic meds, generic Ibuprofen works fine on me..though no med lasts the full time stated ('take every 4 hours' means 'will wear out in 2-3 hours') generic decongestants work to..read the big long scienticic 'active ingredient' on your favorite brand then look for it in generic....preferably do the reading when you are not sick..and but when convenient..try not to wait till in the midst of a cold..when you are in a akened state and likely to buy more than just your medicine.
there has to be more too.
K so yeah I am sick..but at least no money was lost in time off work (husband on the other hand went in sick...)
K so yeah I we are looking at upcomming surgery and time off for husband..but at least we have some money set aside....
K so yeah we have not much family nearby to help..but at least we do have a BIL who will drive him to the hospital....(though no one is making us chicken soup right now .)
K so yeah we have a small house, but it has plenty of floor space for company (cause there ain't much furniture .)
K so yeah we have a limited budget..but at least we have one!
And weather or not the grass is greener over there, at least it isn't any browner here.
"I didn't teach my 2.5 year old to read, I spent 2.5 years teaching my kid to read...."
No I didn't drill either kid daily, I simply included all sorts of reading useful information for 2.5 years...when they were ready they put all the information together and tried to read..then they tried again..and again..and one day..it clicked..both my older two were about 2.5 when it clicked, and I get asked about both at various times 'how did you teach your child to read so young.."
I didn't, like I said, I spent 2.5 years teaching them!"
But while I look at my finances did it really take 20 some years for me to learn how to balance a checkbook? Err no, I havn't really done much on checkbooks with my kids, and while I do remember some lessons on checks/budgets with my mother (I was mostly homeschooled) I honestly had to try it to learn it, so it took me 10ish years to learn..Ok that is still a bit long, but hey sounds better than 20 something!
Looking at the numbers I want to make sure start some finance lessons with my kids now..so that they can take 10 years to learn and yet still be in their teens when they get it straightened out. (BTW national average age of the finance savvy is much older than 20 something, so moms checkbook lessons helped cut my curve down, I just hope more lessons will help even more)
Ok so how with 'only' three kids do I have 9 teachers!
4 for my youngest, two are 'nursery helpers' during church, and two are Sunday school teachers.
2 for each of the older two kids, team teaching is the norm.
and 1 for my Husband and I..we are never allowed to go to seperate classes, I had enough work to do as it was!
Though I like to bake so it isn't as bad as all that, trouble is I was thinking I had more time..but today was the last Sunday school before Christmas..Next week is the Childrens pagent (GMC will be in it!) and the week after is the sppecial combined service.
Now I just need to go make the rest of the cookies to go share tonight for the caroling....My cooking was specifically requested!
While I do feel pressured to cook now, I also feel..special, they like it!...one guy refused to eat breakfast because he knew I would have muffins..good thing I stayed up last night to make em!
And the kids in the nursery see my 'yogurt' containers and immediatly head for the table to chow down! Fortunatly I generally go with low sugar part whole wheat fruit muffins. Otherwise with the number eaten some would be wired on a sugar high.
First the great news..the fever went away, we called of the DR, and while he is not quite his normal self, he also is sleeping well, and eating well, and no fever..not really sure what is wrong..Anyway thanks for all the well wishes and prayers, it seems to be working, so keep it up please!
Second the not so happy news...never try to print a tri-fold card on a printer that prints crooked! Take fifty billion is awaiting printing now....
Third the ironic news...my high blood pressure, half jewish, half just plain ironic mother sent us a ham, with 27%of your sodium intake per minute serving....thanks, but umm yeah, ironic!
Fourth the good news! We are done shopping for Christmas! ok well I forgot one thing (toothbrushes for kids stockings), and we will pick up some chocolate closer to christmas (if it was in the house we would eat it, and we need it for the grownup stockings....yeah, they get toothbrushes, we get chocolate...sorry .)
Fifth the bad news...it cost over 100$ to finish up! sheesh, ah well it was all budgeted...and did I mention it was done?
err do we have a happy dance smily? I think it would be perfect right now!
I got this in my inbox today..slightly more chain and less poilite:
3 men were hiking through a forest when they came upon a large,raging violent river. Needing to get on the other side, the
first man prayed, "God, please give me the strength to cross the
Poof! God gave him big arms and strong legs and he was able
to swim across in about 2 hours, having almost drowned twice.
After witnessing that the second man prayed, "God, please give
me strength and the tools to cross the river."
Poof! God gave him a rowboat and strong arms and strong legs and he was able to row across in about an hour after almost capsizing once.
Seeing what happened to the first two men, the third man prayed, "God, please give me the strength, the tools and the intelligence to cross the river."
Poof! Lightbulb moment. He checked the map, hiked ten yards up stream and walked across the bridge.
Strenght, tools and inteligence alone wont cut it....you gotta have all three.
Fortunatly I don't feel the situation is lifethreatening, but my gut does tell me UE has an ear infection...
He got a fever last night, after taking three naps..for a 1 year old who hates to sleep that is weird! The fever is still there today (I gave him some tylenol, it worked for an hour) He is also 'pestering' his ears, and complaining when I try to clean them (kid has the dirtiest ears I have ever seen!)
Anyway I will be calling the Dr, and prolly getting an apointment for tomorrow (husband is off)
But in light of the recent bus vs million dollar deal thread, it does make me greatful for what I do have...
yeah ok so it is early, but hey you can print it out and add to your collection
It is a three fold card, so you have to imagine opening it to get the middle then fully to get the letter
sorry bout the missing picture of the kids...I am just not that trusting
and the part all about us err well all about the kids anyway.
Well there you have it, SA gets our Christmas card before the family...no printer access...
it comes with a suggestion that you grow your own, instructions for frame availible on request...but errr you have to be kidding, me grow a plant? noway..
But it looks cool, and I would love to own one..so how much do you think 5 years of patiently training 3 trees costs?
I can see it now, your walking along some girl sholders up to you offering a scent of fried donuts...you shake your head 'no' even as your mouth waters....
She brings a covered tray closer, lifting the towel covering it, tempting you with even more delightful smell of fresh donuts.
"common, just one bite, try it" only 20$ for a donut...
Of course it will take time and effort to set up black market bakeries, but you know no fake food will ever equal the taste of real transfat...Though New York seems to think one and a half years is plenty of time for bakeries to research alternatives. I wonder how long before they ban caffeine, sugar, salt, alcohol, whole milk and any other ingredients...
Will we one day be asking around to find a 'speakeasy' to get our cup of 'java joe'?
(don't get me wrong..I avoid transfat..)
edit to add: editorial on the 'nanny state'
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