I always thought in books and movies how rude it was that the dad was balancing the checkbook and was always sniping at the kids when they came around, now I find myself doing it. I do spend lots of time with my kids so this isn't like the only time I could be with them, but I still feel guilty, something about watching money disapear and finding new gas charges with no reciepts is rather depressing.
Archive for April, 2005
OK I don't mind rolling coins, no big you count sort and stuff. Then the reward of seeing how much you have to take to the bank. But money is dirty! and to make it worse somehow there was green icky stuff over ALL of our coins! I spent the first hour washing them so they wouldn't stick so much.
Scrooge I am not, I do not like the feel of money at all! I like knowing we have security, I like knowing we have some for fun, wait we don't. Oh well I HATE touching it!
So I did some looking into campgrounds near pgh, and it turns out there is one KOA within 30 minutes, and one withing 45. Just depends on how close they are to the rest of the family. Plus I have to figure out if we want to camp. Which we have never done before, at any point in our lives, much less pregnant witha 1 year old and a 3 year old (and a sleepy cranky daddy).
but the initaial cost of the tent and such should pay for itself in savings on the hotel. I guestimated the hotel between 350 and 400 and the camping between 200 and 250. I also realized that we tend to spend about 50 while there normally. so anything I can do to bring the cost down to 50 is good news. (ILs give us cash to cover gas and such)
So I did some calculating and with eating out extra (no fridge or stove to take advantage of) It is looking around 400$ for a two day trip, a lot more than the break even we are used to. DH and I talked and we will only be able to do that once, which will be closer to 500, cause if we are only going once we are going when the renfest is in town whihc means we need an extra day, ugh.
I was thinking buying a tent would be soooo much cheaper, but so far as I know the closes camp grounds are like 2 hours away, and asking DH to drive 2 hours on top of the 7 to get to pgh is just a bit much. Sucks. Remind me when I am a MIL to tolorate anything short of abuse with NO COMMENT!
DH took DS while DD and I napped, man it is impossible to recover from the trip! I still have a headache!
But we got some much needed stuff and with DH making a trip to the grocery store we should be done for groceries for the week hopefully under the 75 we have been aiming for. Now that my stockpiles are gone I had to up the weekly spending to 75 (ok baby 3 has something to do with it) but still is better than the 100 or more we used to be spending.
Got the CC bill yesterday and it was really cool to see the new total so dramatically different due to the income tax return, I know it wouldn't have been so high if we had been using the money thru the year, but then again I didn't wake up and smell the debt till around october ish, whenever I joined here shortly before that. So it prolly would have been that high. Next year we are not looking at much money from the govt at all, DH changed his number claimed and now we have nothing taken out going to the feds. which bothers him a lot, but I think with the addition of another kid we need the money, and we always get ALL of what we send back.
Well pgh was interesting, we managed to find a hat for DS which we have been looking for for a loooong time, and I relized a major difference between my family spending and most everyone else. We did not buy anything for DD, we wern't looking for anything for DD. SHe doesn't need anything, cept maybe girly shirts and I didn't like any for the price. Apparently we are supposed to get her in the habit of recieving things when her big bro does? weird to me. But I am (and my DH) completly different in parenting habits from my ILs so I should be used to that.
Unfortunatly our next trip will be dramatically more expensive, we will have to stay in a hotel. Stress of not being home is bad enough without the MIL stress on top.
Today is the day we get to find out if DS likes the class. I am excited, he is more excited anbout going to pgh though, so he may not be all that into it.
I also talked to my Mom about being my shopper for my DHs birthday present, hopefully she can find the right thing for the right price (she ebays and stuff, I don't) AND she is looking into getting DS a violin for Christmas. I hope she gets a used one like I asked for, that way if DS isn't in to it as much in person she can turn around and ebay it, hopefully for the same price (or more .) He has been asking for the violin for around 6 months. So I am petty confident he will like it.
Well to get there from here is about 2 tanks of gas each way (plus some for down there) then there is the grocery shopping, we spend as much shopping there if not more than here, and we don't have to buy as many meals, mainly cause I don't really have the same options, not my kitchen so I can't use it fully. Not to mention the stockpiles we have here don't help, my MIL has the perfect stuffede to the gils cuboard of nothing to eat. She needs flylady .
Anyway that is going to run around 100$ plus the trip to the science center at 14 each adult and 10 for DS (he just turned 3 and started costing us money .)
That should be it though, and the ILs usually give us some loot so we might break even, or at least not spend more than 50$ total.
Now all I have to do is go pack . I hate packing nowadays, with the kids you have to try and find some stuff the ILs got for them that they will wear, and pack extras for accidents, and I no longer pack double outfits, in case DH and I go out, we just don't
OH and my sandals busted!!!! not so good, I am down to 2 pairs of pants that fit and then I have a couple dresses, I do not wear tennis shoes with dresses, so I can't wear them till I get new sandals, which wont be till after we get back from PGH! unless I buy them there?
Well my dreams are vividly real and wierd (pregnancy induced), and last night involved money! First DH gave me a billion things of clothing, including a size 5 pair of jeans!!!! (I am a 6 when not pregnant, but a 12 right now) weird, he is VERY good about getting me clothing, though I often have to get him to stop, I am just like the kids, I wear my fav half dozen things. Anyway in the dream there was also a couple sweat shirts (I only sleep in them, how many different PJs can you own!) And some other stuff I can't remember.
Then their was something about a bank teller friend and her on again off again boyfriend, and the security escort to the car, like the danger stops at the car? (she was carring the money) and of course the wonderful pregnancy hormones give you 'adult' dreams so that had to enter into it, AND the bank lady was acting hormonal and disprganized (classic pregnancy signs) so there was the discussion of that, and some fake non alcholic beer, like who would drink that nasty stuff without the buzz, thats the only reason to down it! (no offense to anyone who likes the taste, I just don't)
Well tonight is the April GN, we have three confirmed guests comming, and I know I am doing somethihng with potatoes, not sure what yet, but something. We bought a huge bag of them on sale and I can now get rid of the rest of them.
So I couldn't get my neighbor to let us drive this time to BJs so I am making a coconut cream pie to give them in return for the trip, I need to come up with more stuff cause they will prolly never let us drive, but I do like the savings by not driving, and they do go nearly every week themselves so why not share.
DH went to the grocery store on his way home Wednesday and got around 60$ worth of stuff, lots of beef there was a good sale, and of course since I wasn't there he got some, but I am looking forward to enjoing the steaks tonight .
Next Week we are going to pgh, so don't even want to think about the gas on the way there! but we miss the family, err not the ILs though, sigh I miss MY family, and the only way to get them is to stay with the ILs.
So we took him he is off the charts on size and prety big on weight , perfectly following moms family (DH was an oddball tall guy)
Good news apparently a 3 year old is cheaper than a 15 month old,
bad news he has to go back in a month or two to get a nother shot, he just missed the shot came out the year after he was born, so he is getting it now, but unlike a baby he doesn't normally see the doc so often and doesn't normally have to get shots his third year. Oh well, don't want him to get pnemonia or anything. Several friends of ours have recently had it and I don't want my poor kid in the hospital.
Very cool I found a second teacher willing to let DS take lessons, that means an oportunity for lower price, the second place took longer to answer and has a cheesier website, I am hoiping the instructors are good but less money on websites means hopefully less money on lessons.